Life and Love

Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, appreciating the memories, learning from the past, and realizing people change.




Sometimes what you want isn't always what you get, but in the end what you get is so much better than what you wanted.



Some people believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of strength. However, there are times in life in which it takes much more strength to just let go.



You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.

Let go ...even if it hurts

They say that sometimes, the best way to show our love for someone is to set them free, even if it means that we are going to be left alone.

The hardest part of loving is letting go.  I  believe that there is no point in holding on to someone  we cannot keep in our hearts.




I don’t see anything wrong in loving, but choosing to love a person in a relationship not meant to be doesn’t promise anything except heartache and pain.


 If you truly want to be happy then don’t stay in a relationship ruled by selfishness and greed.  Remember, only those who know how to let go when it’s time to let go, even if it hurts,  can move on and  find the love that may stay in their hearts forever.

Feelings and Emotions...

1. Always remember that when we lose someone we love, there will be pain in our hearts. But when there is pain, there will be strength and courage, and with that, there will always be the hope of finding someone who will love us and someone we can love even more.

2. Sometimes we just have to control our feelings for someone. Truth is, our feelings doesn’t know what’s right or wrong. That’s why our minds reason with us so there can be balance. Otherwise, we would always trip as we aimlessly follow what our hearts dictate.

3. A relationship will always need trust and faith. Trust, so you could keep a relationship strong, and faith, so you can build a strong foundation of love that could weather all storms to make it last for as long as you wish to.

4. A relationship is a two way street. It’s never all your fault, nor is it all the fault of your partner. Both of you have to work together to make it work. And, remember, the best relationship is one in which your LOVE exceeds your NEEDS for reach other.

5. Letting go of someone you love is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn’t even feel the same is much harder. Remember that giving up doesn’t mean you are weak. It only means that you are strong eonugh to let go of something that was never really yours in the first place.

6. Live not on what your heart dictates but on what is right and sensible. There is still time to turn away from what is wrong. Remember, the true joy of living is not only in loving ourselves but in loving without hurting other people.

7. Even with all the pain that comes with loving, we should never let our hearts wallow in anger. When love comes into our lives, be thankful. But when it leaves us, even if it’s against our will, we should only be sorry or a while. There should be no room for our hatred to grow in our hearts.

8. As it has always been said, we should embrace love when it comes knocking on our doors and willingly let go of it when it says goodbye. We shouldn’t regret that we’ve lost it. Be thankful that for once in our lives it has dwelled in our hearts and made us happy.

9. If we pass on love today, there may never be a next day to show it and even if there’s still a next day, there may never be someone to show it to. Love is never afraid. It should not hold you from showing someone how you feel. If it does, then it is not love.

10. Loving someone with all our hearts isn’t all that it takes to make a relationship last. Sometimes, even if we prove our worth in many ways, seen and unseen, we still cannot guarantee of permanence and loyalty in our relationships.

All about Friendship & True Friends

1. Friends hurt each other. Like family members, friends hurt each other. It doesn’t feel good, but it doesn’t always indicate that the person isn’t your true friend. We are most vulnerable to the people we care about, which means it’s easier for them to hurt us. Nonetheless, being hurt by a friend doesn’t have to be the end of the road for that friendship.

It’s important to accept that the love between friends opens the door for hurt, yet true friends can maintain a friendship through rough times.

2. Friends keep secrets. The levels of intimacy, trust and connection are different in every friendship. In the most intimate friendships, friends know virtually everything about each other. In other friendships, you may not share each other’s entire life story or expose every skeleton in your closet. But that doesn’t mean one friendship isn’t a true friendship.

A friend who keeps certain aspects of their personal life private can still be a true friend. You don’t need to know everything about a person to know that there is something about them that you love.

3. Every friendship is different. Everyone appreciates a true friend who has been around for decades, proving loyalty through tests and trials. But not every friend has to fit inside this box.

One of the best things about friendship is that it comes in many different forms. A friend may be someone who simply says the right thing at the right time on your Facebook wall. Or someone who loves to listen when you need to be heard. Not every friend has everything, so it’s important to appreciate what each friend brings to the table.

4. Friends aren’t perfect. With a long list of what it takes for someone to qualify as a friend, you will constantly find yourself weeding people out. Friends make mistakes. Friends do things that you disapprove of. Friends don’t always communicate properly. Friends have issues they haven’t properly dealt with.

Just because you aren’t fond of certain aspects of a person’s life, doesn’t mean they can’t have a role as your friend. Through their imperfections, many friends teach us love, patience and acceptance.

5. Reason, Season, and Lifetime Friendships. Not every friend is a forever friend—and that’s okay. Some people come into your life for a very specific reason, and their friendship may be just what you need at the time.

Unfortunately, people grow apart, friendships fall apart, and the time may come to let a friend go. When that time comes, it doesn’t mean the person was never your friend. It simply means that their season has passed.

6. Friends aren’t always there. Some friends are present on a regular basis, particularly whenever you need them. This is something quite worthy of appreciation, but it doesn’t have to exist in every friendship.

If you’re in California, you may never embrace your online friend in Japan. But if that friend adds value to your life in some way, it is a true friendship. A friend is someone you share a meaningful connection with, but they aren’t always people who are physically by your side.

13 Signs of a true friend by T. Caldwell

1. They support you in your positive goals and try to steer you from unhealthy habits

2. They’re there for you when you need them, and they will help you the best way they are able to

3. They won’t assume you’re angry with them or no longer your friend just because they haven’t heard from you in a while – they know you’re busy

4. They are willing to drive 15 hours just to hang out with you

5. They will be a fan of your book / album / game / blog and *hint hint* buy your products ;-D

6. They provide constructive criticism instead of insults or judgement

7. They will take the time to try to get to know your family

8. They respect you, your priorities, your limitations, your relationships, your beliefs and your home

9. They understand where you’re coming from and where you’re trying to go

10 They won’t harbor any grudges after a disagreement

11 They make you feel as if you can trust them, and as if they have trust in you

12 They will remain your friend. Even after they’ve seen your stretch marks, witnessed you wearing holey underwear (or none at all), were too close when you let a stinky one loose, and were unable to avoid your projectile vomit when you got silly drunk

13 They will remind you that you are loved, and never alone

How to Recognize (and Become) a True Friend

Though it is completely intangible, friendship is one of life’s most valuable treasures. It’s something that we all desire and it may even be something that we need. Most people claim to give it and expect to receive it. But like all of the best things, true friendship can be hard to come by.

To find one true friend in life is a gift like no other. By making the distinction between the people with whom you associate and those who qualify as your true friend(s), you may seize the opportunity to foster one of the most important relationships you’ll ever experience.

If you’re wondering how to become a better friend or how to evaluate current associations, consider these surefire signs of real friendships:


Listening

A friend is someone who listens intently without preparing a response. Because your friend loves you enough to care about what you have to say, they will be there to listen even when others in the world might consider your point of view stupid, wrong, or otherwise undesirable. With friendship, there is no need to filter your thoughts. A friend won’t always agree with you, but they will be your sounding board.

Loyalty and Dependability


Friends love without all of the conditions that often exist in other relationships. We all make costly mistakes in life, but a true friend will remain in your corner during those rough times.

A real friendship will not change if you gamble away your money, gain 100 pounds, marry the wrong person, make parenting mistakes, or lose a great job. That person is not in your life because of what you have or who you appear to be.


A true friend cherishes their relationship with you because they know your heart. A person who loves you for the person that you are on the inside will be there when the whole world seems to be against you.


Honesty and Sincerity
A true friend will always tell you the truth. If you’re making a bad decision or walking around with a booger in your nose, you can count on a friend to speak up. There is no reason to hide your thoughts or feelings from the person who is your true friend. Friendship allows you the freedom to share information openly and honestly because you know it will be held in the strictest confidence. Being a good friend means being completely trustworthy, for there is never room for deceit in friendship.



Respect and Acceptance

One of the luxuries of friendship is that you can be yourself. Having similar interests helps you to bond with new associates, but a true friend will not require that you like the same things that they like. Because your true friend respects you as an individual, the friendship will be sustained even if your political views, social interests, religious beliefs, marital status, or finances change over the years. Although a friend will give you their honest opinion, they won’t require you to agree with them.

Boundaries

It isn’t always easy when friends begin spending less time together because one of them starts a family or begins spending more time with colleagues. However, your true friend will respect your boundaries as you develop other relationships and associations.

Quality Time
Much like romantic relationships, friendships must be cultivated with quality time. That doesn’t mean you need weekly date nights or daily phone conversations. After all, quantity does not mean quality and vice versa. Quality time with a friend includes communicating your dedication by giving advice when requested, quietly listening when needed, providing reassurance and support, and showing up in emergencies.

Even if you only talk to your true friend once a month, that time should be given the upmost importance. Your work, spouse, children, pets, parents, and all other things and people must be temporarily set aside in order to effectively communicate with your true friend in whatever way works for both of you. Any relationship worth having is worth nurturing.


Deep Understanding
Friends take the time to know much more about each other than what is on the surface. A friend seeks to have a deeper understanding of who you are as a person. Any associate may come to know your birthday, your favorite foods, and the type of mate you desire. But a true friend understands what you need when feeling down, what approach is best when presenting a new idea to you, what drives and motivates you, what body language you use when hiding your pain, and what values you hold most dear to your heart.

You have been blessed with an amazing gift if, after reading the friendship qualities above, you realize that you have a true friend in your life. And your friends are equally lucky if you have these qualities. If, on the other hand, you realize that you have fallen short of true friendship, use what you’ve read here as a guide to help you develop this solid bond. Should you find yourself in a position where there is nobody around to befriend, at least be a true friend to yourself.

more ... about love

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn’t really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go! You know when you love someone when you want him to be happy even if his happiness means that you’re not part of it.

Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn’t love you back, don’t be afraid to love someone else again, for you’ll never know unless you give it a try. You’ll never love a person you love unless you risk for love. Love strives in hurting. If you don’t get hurt, you don’t learn how to love. Love doesn’t hurt all the time, though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow. Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s called falling in love because you don’t force yourself to fall. You just fall.


You cannot finish a book without closing its chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages. Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering, and growing. The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go.


We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves. On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don’t ever make the mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.

To love is to risk rejections, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing! To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to risk your true self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return. How to love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain. Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end.

Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks. Those were the things that helped you grow. Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.


Love is a big risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you’ll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love. Only love can fill you with desire and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you’re not ready to cry, if you’re not ready to take the risk, if you’re not ready to feel the pain, then you’re not ready to fall in love. There’s a time in our lives when we become afraid to love coz every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that’s why it’s called falling in love. When you decide to love, allow it to grow. When you promise to love, refuse to let it die! Keep on lovin!!!