The Blessing You Didn't Know

A sad short story about a man who waited too long. True love was right under his
nose all along but he was so busy searching for it, he actually missed it
totally.

There was this guy who believed very much in true love and decided to take his
time to wait for his right girl to appear. He believed that there would
definitely be someone special out there for him, but none came.
Every year at Christmas, his ex-girlfriend would return from Vancouver to look
him up. He was aware that she still held some hope of re-kindling the past
romance with him. He did not wish to mislead her in any way. So he would always
get one of his girl friends to pose as his steady whenever she came back.
That went on for several years and each year, the guy would get a different girl
to pose as his romantic interest. So whenever the ex-girlfriend came to visit
him, she would be led into believing that it was all over between her and the
guy.

The girl took all those rather well, often trying to casually tease him about
his different girlfriends, or so, as it seemed! In fact, the girl often wept in
secret whenever she saw him with another girl, but she was too proud to admit
it. Still, every Christmas, she returned, hoping to re-kindle some form of
romance. But each time, she returned to Vancouver feeling disappointed.
Finally she decided that she could not play that game any longer. Therefore, she
confronted him and professed that after all those years, he was still the only
man that she had ever loved. Although the guy knew of her feelings for him, he
was still taken back and have never expected her to react that way. He always
thought that she would slowly forget about him over time and come to terms that
it was all over between them. Although he was touched by her undying love for
him and wanted so much to accept her again, he remembered why he rejected her in
the first place-she was not the one he wanted. So he hardened his heart and
turned her down cruelly. Since then, three years have passed and the girl never
return anymore. They never even wrote to each other. The guy went on with his
life..... still searching for the one but somehow deep inside him, he missed the
girl
.
On the Christmas of 1995, he went to his friend's party alone. "Hey, how come
all alone this year? Where are all your girlfriends? What happened to that
Vancouver babe who joins you every Christmas?", asked one of his friend. He felt
warm and comforted by his friend's queries about her, still he just surged on.
Then, he came upon one of his many girlfriends whom he once requested to pose as
his steady. He wanted so much to ignore her ..... not that he was impolite, but
because at that moment, he just didn't feel comfortable with those girlfriends
anymore. It was almost like he was being judged by them. The girl saw him and
shouted across the floor for him. Unable to avoid her, he went up to acknowledge her.

"Hi......how are you? Enjoying the party?" the girl asked.

"Sure.....yeah!", he replied.

She was slightly tipsy..... must be from the whiskey on her hand. She continued,

"Why...? Don't you need someone to pose as your girlfriend this year?" Then he
answered, "No, there is no need for that anymore......"

Before he can continue, he was interrupted, "Oh yes! Must have found a
girlfriend! You haven't been searching for one for the past years, right?" The
man looked up, as if he has struck gold, his face beamed and looked directly at
the drunken girl. He replied, "Yes......you are right! I haven't been looking
for anyone for the past years."
With that, the man darted across the floor and out the door, leaving the lady in
much bewilderment. He finally realized that he has already found his dream girl,
and she was.....the Vancouver girl all along! The drunken lady has said
something that awoken him.

All along he has found his girl. That was why he did not bother to look further
when he realized she was not coming back. It was not any specific girl he was
seeking! It was perfection that he wanted, and yes.....perfection!!
Relationship is something both parties should work on. Realizing that he had let
away someone so important in his life, he decided to call her immediately. His
whole mind was flooded with fear. He was afraid that she might have found
someone new or no longer had the same feelings anymore..... For once, he felt
the fear of losing someone.

As it was Christmas eve, the line was quite hard to get through, especially an
overseas call. He tried again and again, never giving up. Finally, he got
through......precisely at 1200 midnight. He confessed his love for her and the
girl was moved to tears. It seemed that she never got over him! Even after so
long, she was still waiting for him, never giving up.
He was so excited to meet her and to begin his new chapter of their lives. He
decided to fly to Vancouver to join her. It was the happiest time of their
lives! But their happy time was short-lived. Two days before he was supposed to
fly to Vancouver, he received a call from her father. She had a head-on car
collision with a drunken driver. She passed away after 6 hours in a coma.
The guy was devastated, as it was a complete loss. Why did fate played such
cruel games with him? He cursed the heaven for taking her away from him, denying
even one last look at her! How cruel he cursed! How he damned the Gods...!! How
he hated himself....for taking so long to realize his mistake!! That was in
1996.


The moral of this story is : -
Treasure what you have...
Time is too slow for those who wait;
Too swift for those who fear;
Too long for those who grief;
Too short for those who rejoice;
But for those who love...
Time is Eternity.

For all you out there with someone special in your heart, cherish that person,
cherish every moment that you spend together that special someone, for in life,
anything can happen anytime. You may painfully regret, only to realise that it
is too late.

A Silent Love

Love transcends everything, including the one gift we take so often for granted,
speech. A touching story with a tear-jerking ending which shows true love is
patient and will be a shining light in moments of despair.


From the very Begining, the girl's family objected strongly on her dating this
guy. Saying that it has got to do with family background & that the girl will
have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.
Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel very often. Though the girl love
the guy deeply, but she always ask him: "How deep is your love for me?"
As the guy is not good with his words, this often cause the girl to be very
upset. With that & the family's pressure, the girl often vent her anger on him.
As for him, he only endure it in silence.


After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated & decided to further his
studies in overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm not very good
with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you allow me, I will take care
of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try my best to talk
them round. Will you marry me?"


The girl agreed, & with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in &
agreed to let them get married. So before he leave, they got engaged.
The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas,
continuing his studies. They sent their love through emails & phone calls.
Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.


One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car
that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She
realised that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum crying, she wanted to
comfort her. But she realized that all that could come out of her mouth was just
a sigh. She has lost her voice......
The doctors says that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose her voice.
Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from her, she
broke down.
During the stay in hospital, besides silence cry,.....it's still just silence
cry that companied her. Upon reaching home, everything seems to be the same.
Except for the ringing tone of the phone. Which pierced into her heart everytime
it rang. She does not wish to let the guy know. & not wanting to be a burden to
him, she wrote a letter to him saying that she does not wish to wait any longer.
With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions &
millions of reply, and countless of phonecalls,.. all the girl could do, besides
crying, is still crying....


The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually forget
everything & be happy.
With a new environment, the girl learn sign language & started a new life.
Telling herself everyday that she must forget the guy. One day, her friend came
& told her that he's back. She asked her friend not to let him know what
happened to her. Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him.


A year has passed & her friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation
card for the guy's wedding. The girl was shattered. When she open the letter,
she saw her name in it instead.
When she was about to ask her friend what's going on, she saw the guy standing
in front of her. He used sign language telling her "I've spent a year's time to
learn sign language. Just to let you know that I've not forgotten our promise.
Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped the
ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled.

The Last Words

It had been raining for more than a week, so much rain it made everyday seemed so restless and gloomy. She called and said she was coming up. It was the third time she came up to see me that week. I carried her excuse of why she came all the way here and went to meet her at the nearby seven-eleven. She was standing there alone, carrying her red umbrella. Her friend had dropped her off. It was raining and she was shivering. She looked weak and fragile in the harsh rain, wearing not enough to keep her warm.

I walked up to her and said, "You shouldn't come see me anymore," and stuff like how we shouldn't be together.

She said, "I miss you."

I told her coldly, "Lets go, I'll take you home."

She did not open up her umbrella, I knew she wanted to share mine.

I said, "Open up your umbrella, let's go."

Unwillingly, She opened up her umbrella and walked with me to the car. She said she hadn't eat lunch or dinner and asked if we could stop at some place to eat.

Right away I answered with a stoned heart, "No!"

Disappointed, she asked me to take her to the train station, she said she would take the train back home.

Maybe it was the rain, all the trains were full of people with umbrellas and suit cases who were eager to get home, not caring about who just passed by. We waited and waited, she looked at me innocently. Being together for so long, of course I knew what she meant. I understand how she must feel when she came all this way here in this kind of weather and I treat her like this. With her soft eyes staring at me, I felt guilt and wanted to let her stay for the night.

But reality struck again, I said to her coldly, "Let's go try the other train station."

We were living in the same apartment building, on the same floor. Back then there were four of us, and we got along well. We would always eat dinner together, watch movies, and sometimes go camping. We were more like a family, but I didn't know I would end up falling in love with the only girl of the four. Maybe it was during the last year of college, having living together for two years, we developed deep feelings for each other. After she graduated she went back home, and I stayed for one more year to finish school. During that year I was only able to take the train down to see her on holidays, but never for long. That was how we kept the treasured relationship.

We were walking along the side of the road. She was in front of me and I was right behind her. Her umbrella had a broken spoke. She looked liked a wounded soldier, carrying her rusted rifle walking weakly. Many times, she was too into thinking or whatever she was doing, drifting off the road, she almost got hit by the cars passing by. I wanted to just take her in my arms, but with the love I had for her and the constant pain in my stomach, I did nothing. On the way, we passed by the park where we use to always go.

She begged and said, "Lets go in the park just for a little while please, I promise I'll go home right after this."

With her begging, my cold heart softened, but I still put up an annoyed face and walked in the park. I was just sitting on the benches looking like I wanted to leave. She went to the big oak tree and she was looking for something. I knew she was looking for what we wrote on that tree with a silver ink pen half a year ago. If I remember it right, it said, "Chris and Susan was here, Chris had tea and Susan was drinking hot chocolate. Hope Chris and Susan would always remember this day, always loving each other, forever." She was looking around for quite a while, then she came back slowly with tears on her face.

She said, "Chris, I can't find it, it's not there anymore."

I felt so sour inside, there was a stream of pain, flowing into my heart, the kind of pain I've never felt before. But all I could do was pretend I didn't care, and said, "Can we go now?"

I opened up my big black umbrella, she was just standing there, didn't want to leave yet, hoping there was still a chance. She said, "You made up the story of you and that other girl didn't you? I know I frustrate you sometimes, but I'll change, can't we start over?"

I didn't say a word, just looked down and shook my head. After that we just kept on walking towards the train station, didn't say a word to each other.

Four years ago, the doctor said I had cancer, but it was found early, so it was still curable. Thinking that it was okay, I started living my normal life again, and even forgot about the cancer. I didn't think about the cancer again and did not go back to the doctor. Until a month ago, my stomach was hurting for two weeks straight, and the nightmare awakened me again.
First I thought the pain wouldl go away, but it grew stronger until to the point that I couldn't take it anymore. I went back to the doctor and took an X-ray. The picture came out and there was a big black spot, which proved the truth that I did not want to believe. I was at the most glittering part of my life, but it was coming to an end. I wanted myself and the people around me to go through the least pain possible, so I decided to commit suicide.

But I couldn't let people find out about my intentions, especially Susan, the person I love the most in this whole world, who still doesn't know about the truth. Susan was still young, she shouldn't have to go through this. So I made up some stories and lied to her. It was a cruel thing to do, and it broke her heart, but it was the fastest way to wipe out three years's feelings. I didn't have much time, because I would soon start to loose hair and she would find out eventually. But now I'm close to succeeding, this drama would soon be over. Thirty minutes more this would all come to an end, that was what I had in mind.

The train had stopped running so I called a taxi for her. We were just standing there, waiting, loosing our last moments in silence.

I saw the taxi from far away, I held my tears and said to her, "Take care of yourself, take good care of yourself."

She didn't talk, just nodded lightly, and then opened up her misshaped umbrella and stepped out on the street. Out in the rain, we became two single life forms, one red, one black, so far away from each other. I opened the door for her and she got in, then I close the gate that would separate me from her forever. I stood by the car, staring in the dark window, at the first love in my life, also the last one, walking out of my life. The car started, driving into the street. Finally I couldn't hold my sorrow and the twist in my heart any longer, waving my arms rapidly chasing after the taxi, because I knew, this would be the last time I see her.

I wanted to tell her I still love her, I wanted to tell her to stay, I wanted to tell her so much, but the taxi had already turned in the corner. Warm tears kept falling down my face, blended with the cold rain drops. I was cold, not because of the rain. I was cold inside.

She left, and I didn't get anymore of her phone calls even until today. I know she didn't see my tears, because they were washed away by the rain. I left without regrets. But I'm not Chris, I'm that girl Susan, using my memory, and his diary I found after one year since he left, writing down these last words.

Your destiny is in your hands

Your destiny is in your hands . If you don't act now, you might lose your chance of knowing how it feels like to really love someone and express it without any fear. In many instances, we too, become like prisoners of our own fears. Let us not be insensitive to the signals others are sending us. They are vivid signs of what could lie ahead and forewarn us of danger or give us a glimpse of hope that we are on the right tracks of our lives. Let us try to listen to what they don't say for sometimes there is more meaning to what they keep inside than what comes out of their lips. Let us not be afraid to face our own fears for they will be lifetime crutches that will keep us from walking straight. Remember that there is no gain without pain. only when we take the chance of getting hurt can we find the road to real happiness and only when we face our fears can we find the way to the only love that will last us a lifetime.

It’s not the quantity but the quality of the time

It’s true that there will always be a child in each and everyone of us. Many of us have been deprived of things we could have enjoyed in childhood because our families were financially constrained and could only provide us with nothing more than our basic needs. When we become self-sufficient with our jobs, we begin to relish the past and reward ourselves with what we have missed, now that we can afford it. I grew up only with a handful of simple plastic toys and I always looked forward to be with my playmates who had Voltes V robots to tinker with. Now, I’d still like that child who would drag his family to the toy store and mouse around. Things could have been a lot easier if I just have myself to think about. But, now that I have my own family, it’s a totally different story.
it’s a cold hard fact that there are a lot of married men who find the time they spend for work and their leisure activities more exciting than the time they spend with their little children. I know of some who would cherish those moments of closeness with their kids but many would rather leave them with their mothers, grandma’s or worst their "yaya’s" most of the time.
Many men think that if they sufficiently provide for the material needs of their children they have already done their job. But they fail to realize that enrolling them in a good school, and buying them nice clothes and toys are just less than half of their responsibility.
Considering the nature of your work, time management will play a crucial role here. A little for work, a little for the hobby, and a little for the family. If he cannot be around in the weekend, then set a different day. It’s not the quantity but the quality of the time we spend with our family that counts. It isn’t easy, I know. But, time will come when we will never be able to hold those small hands again and kiss those tiny fingers. We may never hear the little giggles and cries. We may never have the chance to carry them on our backs anymore. When that time comes, all we could helplessly do is wish for time to turn back so we can hug them and be with them again. Its never too late, your child could be at home waiting for you. Forget about the night out with your friends today, go home and be a parent. He could be right there sitting beside you. Hug him and tell him how much you love him. Remember, there is always an opportunity to be close to our children. It wouldnt cost us hours for all they need is a few minutes of our time... given unselfishly with love and sincerity.

Time and distance can destroy the foundations of strong relationships

It isn’t true, that all long distance relationships are bound to fail. There are exceptions, of course. But generally, lovers separated by miles of oceans and months of time find it very difficult to establish a strong foundation for their relationships. You may be capable of paying all your phone and e-mail bills and talk for as often and as long as you want but still, nothing compares to the warmth of being together and doing and sharing things together. One warm hug couldnt be replaced by hours of conversation, cards or even expensive gifts.
Communication is the lifeblood of a relationship but presence is as important as this vital link. For as long as you keep your lines open where you can share your thoughts and feelings for each other, then I think your relationship will be fine. But remember, you cannot stay this way forever. One day, either of you would have to make a move and find a way to bridge your gap and be together.
Marriage is the fastest option but, you’re right, you have to give yourselves a little more time before plunging in to something as serious as this.
Time and distance can destroy the foundations of strong relationships but when you don’t have any other choice then its your love and faithfulness that will take over.
Looking forward to being with someone we really love gives us the strength to live each day as it passes. Our faith and trust in each other will shield us against forces that will try to destroy our relationships. And most of all, our love, if sincere and unselfish, will see us through during the most trying times of our lives. And in the end, we would walk hand in hand with that person towards the promise of a beautiful forever.

God has a reason for allowing certain things to happen

In our country, it is not a common practice to buckle up in a car. We all know that seatbelts save lives but unless we get a close call from death or know of people who could have been saved by it, we would just brush off the idea and settle for a more convenient alternative. We also know that drunk driving accounts for many of tragic car accidents but sadly, many of us are still unmindful of its consequences. I hope that the tears and the blood that bathe Matt on that fateful day will always remind us to wear our seatbelts whenever possible and never get drunk when we are tasked to drive for the lives that our discipline and conviction will save maybe our own and those of whom we love.
God has a reason for allowing certain things to happen. We may never understand his wisdom but we simply have to trust his will. We don't say goodbye to someone we love for no matter how hard we try, love will always find its way back to us. We just keep that feeling and let it grow again. Say goodbye to the past but don't be afraid to look back when you have to, for there are so many beautiful memories with which you can draw your strength and inspiration from. Cry if you have to and let the tears wash away the bitterness that you feel. Look back and smile for somewhere in the past, love has found a home in your heart. Don't let the feeling end. Nurture it and give it the chance to grow as it has always been said "Let us be glad that love came to live for a moment in our lives. If we keep our hearts open, it will always come again."

Set yourself free

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Love can be very treacherous. After denying ourselves of so much and after standing up against the will of our very own families, love can fade without any warning and leave us hurting, wondering where we have gone wrong.
Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for forty days and forty nights, but it will not rain forever. One day, the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. You may find love and lose it but when love dies, you never have to die with it.

love doesn’t look for tags or prices

It is sad that sometimes we learn with painful tears that our first love doesn’t always turn out to be our last. Our first brush with this exciting emotion can sweep us off our feet and make us forget getting them back on the ground. When we lose our balance, we fall on our faces and that is when it really hurts. Always remember that love doesn’t look for tags or prices on people. Love defies the boundaries of race, color and culture. What we are is more important than who we are. And only when we stop using the scale of prejudice can we truly say that all is fair in love. If a someone isn’t interested anymore he would have a hundred reasons for it, but if the otherway around it would find a thousand ways to prove it.

There is no sin so grave that God cannot forgive

Not anyone can play righteous and look down on you for we are sinners ourselves. We all fail but God doesn’t look less of us because of that. He knows we have all fallen short of his glory but he never gets tired in reaching out. He wants us to be transformed and become better persons. And, in his own way, he would choose someone to serve as an instrument in making us realize the need for that change in our lives.

The wrong that we do weakens us and makes us lose faith. We start to rely on our own selves. But we cannot stand alone for we are limited by our own frailties and sinfulness. If you have exhausted all your options then turn to God. He’s the only one who can clear your mind and give you the strength to accept the pain of reality. Do not let your heart rule over your mind for you will become a helpless slave of your emotions and a prisoner of your desires.

There is no sin so grave that God cannot forgive. If we come to him, he will make that change possible. There can only be real happiness when we strive to become not what we are but what God wants us to be.

There is always a time to think and stop

It's true that love can wait forever but it is crazy to stubbornly hope for someone who doesn't even care or understand how we feel.
Love makes us see things through rose colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger signs that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must realize that you have to let go before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. A time to be sensible and not allow our hearts to rule over our heads.

Loving someone means understanding that person and accepting his imperfections and limitations.

The worst enemies a relationship could ever face could be our very own selves. When we start to think only of our own feelings, needs, and desires, we become thoughtless and uncaring. We begin to demand beyond what is sensible and reasonable and put the blame on our partners when they fail to give us what we want.
Love is always put to the test when we are asked to give more that what we can and sacrifice that which is precious to us. It takes more than just commitment to make a relationship work.
Loving someone means understanding that person and accepting his imperfections and limitations. There is no such thing as a faultless boyfriend or an excellent husband. We can only dream of a perfect relationship but in the end just hope to find the ideal one.
We all learn from love. But, sometimes we learn the hard way and pay such a painful price for the lessons it teaches. Real love is selfless and understanding. It is kind and forgiving.It is true that, all of us have to go through trials and bear the pain that it inflicts in order to become better persons. Just like gold that is refined in fire, we learn from our faults and get our strength from the tears that fall from our eyes.
The lesson you have learned from experience and the lesson that will help you find lasting happiness in your next, and hopefully, final relationship in this lifetime.

God allows us to be tested at times when we are most weak

Not all married men will experience the excruciating pain of being left by their wives for another man. I don’t know if I could survive losing someone I shared my vows of forever with in a competition that is never fair and will never be justifiable and acceptable.


Not only have you lost your wife but you may have also lost your kids to a man who could be their dad but can never be their father. I know there were no words that can describe how bitter it was to see them go, but, you have allowed love to rule over hatred and humility over pride. You were able to say goodbye in a manner that was truly that of a real gentleman. You have lost a fight but not the battle. You have lost your family but you haven’t lost your faith that you have built your life upon.


It is true that God allows us to be tested at times when we are most weak and in places where it hurt them most. Job, in the bible, lost his family, his wealth, his health and almost lost his own life. But he never lost hope and God saw how he stood firm in his faith. He was rewarded a hundred fold after surviving the most difficult trials in his life.


It has been years now, and your children may already have families of their own, too. You haven’t stopped loving them and I know you never will. You will always be a father to your son and daughter. That’s the way it is and will always be, in the eyes of God.

There is life even after we lose those we love, that there is forgiveness even after we have been badly hurt. That God will keep us intact when we feel like breaking apart and that HE will take our hands when we are just about to give up.

someone so close yet so unreachable

I know how it feels to have someone so close yet so unreachable. You know your questions can only be answered by the person you have learned to love all these years.

Don't torture yourself with the if's, why's and probably's. Guess work will just prolong the agony. You have to act now and fight for whom you feel is right for you.

You need a little push. Ask for dinner and talk. Set a comfortable atmosphere for an open and honest conversation and encourage to reveal the feelings.

A man could find a hundred ways to show he cares, A woman can also let know what she feel in many subtle yet concrete ways. Just be yourself. Be sweet, caring and loving in your own fashion. Remember, there will always be a door to someone’s heart and it can only be opened not by foolish pride and reservations but by honest, unreserved and unselfish love.

Love has no room for selfish people

We survive each day because of love even if the other person doesn't seem to take notice of it. We just give and sacrifice without expecting anything in return. but, just like a plant that will only survive for days without water and stand the harsh heat, love, no matter how true and strong it may be, will be short lived if not nurtured with the same care.
Love has no room for selfish people who think only of themselves. If we have been too busy with our work, have been kept by our distorted priorities then it's about time that we stop for awhile and think about the people who we might have stepped on and taken for granted. Love isn't forever. let us not wait too long to appreciate those who have unselfishly given it to us for all that may be left tomorrow are just the bitter and cold memories of someone who loved too much but was never loved enough.

Letting go is not just setting the other person free

You may have found peace in just loving from a distance and not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.

To let go of someone doesn't mean that we have to stop loving that person, it only means that we have to allow that person to find his OWN happiness without expecting him to come back to us. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting ourselves free from all bitterness, hatred, anger and empty hopes that we keep in your hearts.

no matter how hard we try

God has his ways of making us see the way out of the darkness that we sometimes get trapped into because of our own sinful desires.
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we end up sharing the love that we feel so right about with the wrong person. Let us not blame ourselves, for, human as we all are, we all stumble and make mistakes. But there is always hope for God sees and listens. All we have to do is ask Him to show us the signs along the highway of life so we can turn back and seek new roads that will bring us the promise of hope and lasting happiness.

always be doomed from the start

Everyone knows that an affair with a married person will always be doomed from the start. Not even what others feel as love would be enough to justify illicit intimacy. But it still happens because most of the time strong passionate desires run over our will to do what is right. Sometimes we simply ignore our conscience and just go with the flow of our impaired judgement and biased emotions.

It may be late but what is important is........

How can we ever forget someone who has been a part of our lives when there is still this silent longing for this person deep inside? An empty hope of bringing back the hands of time and wishing we could have made things right. We can never forget someone we love. It's a simple as that. No matter how hard we try to get someone out of our system, if we still feel for that person then our efforts of letting go will serve no purpose. For all the feeling we've wished to let go will just keep coming back.

I have always believe that in this game called love, people who are afraid to express what they feel always on hold to the losing end. I have never entertained the thought that being a girl would have to keep someone from expressing her affection for a man. Women always have this notion that they should always wait for the guy to make the first move. But not all men are as aggressive as they would like to think. Most men are afraid of being rejected. They will send out signals but will not pursue if they don't see any welcome signs.

It would have been better if you never held your feelings back. When it’s gone you realize how your insensitivity and fears broke the foundations of what could have been a beautiful relationship. But it's never too late . You are trapped in the past because you have never made your feelings known. It's about time you set yourself free from the clutches of regret and wishful thinking. Let it be known, once and for all, the chaos in your heart.

It may be late but what is important is for you get hold of yourself now and let the past just bury itself where bitter memories will be forgotten forever. This revelation is the key to your freedom. Never lose hope, Miracles do happen. Who knows? Letting Know what you truly feel could be the start of something beautiful.

Some People

God determines who walks into your life....it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go. I need this back. If you'll do this for me, I'll do it for you....When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God is all you need.

There is no certainty in this world

Running away would sometimes be the most convinient way to get out of a mess but that doesn't change anything and makes problems even more complicated. This is the time when you have to courageously face andstraighten your entangled emotions.

There would seem to be no winners in this game but the truth shall be the final judge and set all of you free once and for all. Love can end in tragedy or victory and for some the end means agonizing defeat and relentless pain. This is the lesson that love teaches us. There is no certainty in this world and we should cherish what we have now for tomorrow they may be there no more.

Risk is better than regrets

Its’ Ok to fail. Give room for trial and error. A lot of successes happened after learning from a series of failures. Don't be afraid to make mistakes but make sure you learn from them. Make those failures as stepping stones to bring you closer to what you want to achieve.

Risk is better than regrets. Would you rather live a very calculated life and bid this world farewell with lots of regrets? Risk being hurt. Risk being rejected. Risk being laughed at. You will never find out what could have been if you won't dare to take the risk.

there will always be a life even after losing love

Your experience in love will made you a better and a stronger person. These are what the trials are for, anyway. In many failed relationships, separation comes as the inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be as twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, the end of a relationship is imposed on us, but our choice to hold on is always beyond the control of circumstance. Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us. It is a resolve we make ourselves.

Many, however, remain and hold on to the empty promise of a memory--a past that is gone forever and vows that may never be fulfilled. We choose to live in the shadow of someone we still love, someone who only used to love us. We refuse to turn the pages of our lives so we can relish the beautiful memories we’ve had. Yes, there is closure, but not of the past but of the heart. We will never grow with bitterness and wishful yearning. Life can move on only if we open our hearts and give ourselves a chance to find love again.

Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time is the healer of old wounds. Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkest and loneliest moments. There is always hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try. And remember, there will always be a life even after losing love. That life may even be better than before. For all our pain and suffering come with a purpose. They are meant not to discourage us but to make us stronger and better persons.

You have to learned the true meaning of closure and have stood firm on not looking back. If someone out there is crying over a relationship that has gone sour, never lose faith because losing someone we love may not be a loss at all but a blessing because someone even more deserving is yet to come.

success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of it's beginning but in it's consistency

It was proven so many times that one of the most conclusive ways in putting a relationship to the test is to introduce a third party. This party would always come into the picture and try to disturb the balance of a seemingly healthy relationship. This has a two edged sword that may either destroy or make a stronger relationship.

Even you started your relationship with just like in a fairy tale. But, the success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of it's beginning but in it's consistency. We all change and sometimes we change to destroy the very relationships that we are trying to hold dearly in our hearts.

WHEN IT IS WISE TO HURRY

WHEN IT IS WISE TO HURRY
By Marlene Legaspi-Munar

Pinagusapan natin na mayroong mga pagkakataon na hindi wise ang magmadali. Ano-ano ang mga pagkakataong iyan?

1. It is not wise to hurry when we have not checked our assumptions because we may make very serious mistakes.

2. It is also unwise to hurry in making commitments or promises dahil marami ang hindi nakakatupad sa mga pangako o commitment na hindi talaga pinag-isipan. Halimbawa sa trabaho ninyo, you made a commitment to your customer pagkatapos when you consulted with your boss, hindi naman pala kayang ideliver ng inyong kumpanya ang pangako na iyon, kayo ang masisira. Ang kumpanya ninyo ang masisira. So do not rush in making promises.

3. We should be in no hurry to respond to others with angry words. Kapag mayroong kaopisina na galit na galit sa inyo at sinabihan kayo ng masasakit na salita imbes na magmadali sa pagresponde, itikom muna ang bibig at ng hindi makapagbitiw ng salita na pagsisisihan niyo rin.

4. It is better to plan carefully than to move too quickly.

These are instances when it is unwise to hurry. But there are also instances in our lives, in our work when you need and it is WISE to hurry.

1. We need to hurry when we need to get out of harm’s way. Kung tayo ay mapapahamak, if your convictions and your reputation will be compromised, if temptation is tearing at you very closely, kinakailangan magmadaling umalis. We should hurry when we need to get out of harm’s way.

2. When someone else has something against us, we should hurry to be reconciled with them. Mahirap gawin lalo na kung ang ating hindi kasundo ay boss natin o kaya kaopisina natin, parang ang hirap yatang nitong we should hurry to be reconciled with them. But Matthew 5:25 reminds us to come to terms quickly with your enemy before it is too late and you are dragged into court, handed over to an officer and thrown in jail. Gusto ba nating lumalala pa ang sitwasyon? Mas mahirap ang may kaaway lalo na kung araw-araw mo siyang kailangan makita dahil magkasama kayo sa trabaho.

3. We should hurry to obey God. Psalm 119:60, I will hurry without lingering to obey your commands. Is God telling you to do something at work, in your life, in your family? Ano ang dapat nating maging response kung mayroong pagkakataon na kailangan nating palaging magmadali? Iyan ay pagsunod sa Diyos.

Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart

Don't rush yourself into making a choices. You are not buying a grocery item that you can just return when you're dissatisfied. When you are finally able to stand on your own without looking back then that's the time to choose. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Always remember that happiness is not a matter of destiny but a matter of choice.

marry out of love and not out of obligation

I don't believe that marriage is always the answer to unwanted pregnancy. Many believed it was but most of them just woke up one day and realized that they must have been better off staying single and raising their child by themselves. People should marry out of love and not out of obligation for the latter is never an ingredient of a successful marriage.

If you keep on bitterly grieving

If you keep on bitterly grieving over what could have been then you can never be better. For what you nurture in your heart is a disease that will slowly eat you up and leave you hopelessly alone in the end.

we can never be truly happy if we know that we have stepped on others to attain it

A man would sometimes find it forbidding to drop a girl in favor of another because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings and would rather choose the slow and the not too obvious exit. The other may row on two rivers because he simply enjoys it and would continue to take advantage of both women to satisfy his own needs. The other enjoys the privilege given by a woman who doesn't mind sharing her pie. She would consent to the other party and blindly hold on to the pain because she believes it is better to share him and have him than to take him and lose him.

Let us always remember that we can never be truly happy if we know that we have stepped on others to attain it. Happiness is not when we get because we have taken. It is when we have taken because we were given.

There is no such thing as a perfect partner

Unless you do something about how you feel right now, I'm afraid your bitter thoughts will be like a slow poison that will eventually take away the life that keeps your relationship on the ground. To be able to trust wholeheartedly without any doubt is a vital as the love that stands as a stronghold of a commitment.
A man who falls into the lure of getting attached to someone other than the one he loves usually gets away denying it and lying with words. You must understand that there are deeply-rooted reasons why he acts that way. He may never be able to justify it and you may fail to accept it. But acts of infidelity would most likely happen at least once in every relationship's lifetime.
There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We would always stumble and fall., hurt ourselves and the people we love. If there will never be any room for forgiveness then most of us would be living with regret and bitter memories of letting go of people precious and important to us.
Before finally considering marriage, you should first find peace in accepting him for all that he has done to hurt you and learn to forgive him for it. Relationships that are clouded with doubts and filled with disbelief are like houses built on sand. They crack and fall apart on the slightest provocation. Love isn't love without trust and trust will never find its roots if we are too hard to forgive and too revengeful in not giving those we love a second chance

You have a life to live

If love is a blessing when it comes then, it should never be a curse but a lesson when it leaves. The pain of failed relationships must be the stronghold with which we build new ones and the tears that we have shed should cleanse our hearts from the bitterness that wraps our world in darkness.There are times when we just have to stop wishing and start living. What matters is that you have learned to accept your fate and stop living in the shadow of memories.You have a life to live. Don't let it depend on someone who minds only his own. Remember, just as when God opens a window when he closes a door . our hearts will find a way out of its miseries when pain shuts it off from everything else. Don't pin your hopes on someone who doesn't love you anymore. Believe me, there will always be someone more deserving of your care and attention.There will come a time when we will have to let go of something important to us. Remember a love given is not a love lost. It is when we want to take it back that we lose it forever. Give yourself a chance and love will grow in your heart again. It may not be there forever but cherish it while it lasts and be thankful that even for a moment, you felt it's presence and made you happy.

Don't be sorry for openly expressed your feelings

When we like someone so much we develop this inclination to interpret that person's actions in a very positive way .
We even give the smallest gesture so much meaning which , in return, gives us a better reason to like even more. You could have been all the things that best friends could ever be but there was still a line that separated you from being more than just friends.the flowers …….. could have a thousand meanings . ……it could only mean love in the remotest possibility.

Don't be sorry for openly expressed your feelings . It was better than keeping it to yourself and not knowing what he/she truly felt. At least you know where you stand and hopefully not never expect anything beyond what he/she can offer.
Love dies in our hearts but it can grow again if we learn to accept our destiny and give time a chance to heal our wounds. Let us always remember that we cannot always have everything we want. We are blessed when we find love but we should still be thankful when we loose it for what are denied of are things not meant for us and what we have been given are the ones destined forever.

pain will always be the foundation of beautiful things

It's true that most of us willfully consent to what we see as right in our eyes. Like careless drivers , we follow the dictates of our hearts and stubbornly become slaves to our own feelings and desires. We fail to think rationally and blindly ignore the " red stop light" that warns us of peril ahead . We may have been victims of ignorance but when the truth is finally revealed to us , we still choose to remain nonchalant and care less about the consequences of our actions.There are those who were misled into believing that a relationship was right and there are those who knew that is was a sin right from the beginning. But many of us , even after knowing we're going the wrong way still choose to take the chance and persistently stay on that road , even if we know of the danger that lurks in it's path .God always puts a red stop light along our journey to remind us that we are going to hurt ourselves if we stubbornly step on the gas and move on. But he doesn't put a physical barrier to keep us in place . In the end , it is still our choice, based on our own free will to stop what is wrong and move on with what is right.Life is a matter of choice. We are who we choose to become and we become what we want ourselves to be. Where we are now speaks of the road we chose to travel. Who we are now reflects the decisions we made earlier in our lives.For a time, you seem to have found your place in someone's life. But it wasn't a place you can call your own because it was somebody else's home. You chose not to become a part of it not because it was what your heart wanted you to do but because it was what your conscience was telling you.
Always remember that pain will always be the foundation of beautiful things that are yet to come. There can never be life without love but then again, there can never be love without pain. So let that pain remain to make you strong so you maybe able to look back where love has gone you and look ahead where love will come again.

We never have to be sorry that we have loved

Love brings us such wonderful joy that sometimes we just wish that this feeling would never end. But more often than not there are physical and emotional barriers that would keep this love from growing. Sometimes we just find ourselves hooked on someone who may never have the same feelings for us. We could be so desperately in love with someone who only thinks of us as a friend.We wonder why we don't always get what we want and we fail even if we put so much effort in getting it. If we think of it, we'd realize that we will never get something that is never really meant for us.It is this wishful longing that brings pain. It is in accepting the truth that we get hurt. But even if the harshness of reality grinds us in agonizing pain, it is only in knowing the truth that we are finally set free. Free from the bondage of false hopes and endless longing for a love that was never meant to be.We never have to be sorry that we have loved, for love is the best gift we could ever give someone. Even if we fail and our love is unreturned, we should still be glad that we have experienced how it is to care for and share our life with someone special.
There is no happiness in the arms of asomeone who doesn't love you. Set your heart free, fly and don't be afraid to fall. I'm sure that amidst the turmoil of life there will always be a place where you can rest your broken wings and there will always be a time to heal, a time to move on, spread your wings and fly away again.

It doesn't matter if we fail.........

Many self-made people are afraid to dwell into relation- ships because the rules of work and business do not apply here. In love they can be as vulnerable as a child. They are afraid to fall and would not accept defeat so they just avoid being committed at all. They think that there can be life without love. There is, but it is empty and void with loneliness.I would say you missed a great chance. It was the price you have to pay for being afraid of defeat. It doesn't matter if we fail, what matters is that we have loved at all. Your insecurities are crutches that will keep you from finding real happiness. Throw them away and give love a chance to make a difference in your life.There is always light at the end of the tunnel and you shouldn't stop when you see a glimpse of it. Recognize your weakness but never lose confidence.Believe in yourself. For if you don't, you might be trapped in an endless tunnel and may never see the light again. Remember, those who aren't afraid to love find it but those who are consumed by their own fear lose it.

Believed that there is a reason and a season for everything

Believed that there is a reason and a season for everything. Experience is our greatest teacher . Your tomorrow is something that you owe yourself, not with anyone. Learn from your mistakes and live your life,….. avoiding them so that you may find what you have lost and never lose it again.
we may stumble and hurt .........but there is no mountain so high that love cannot climb over. There is no sea so wide that it cannot cross. Let us always remember that when there is love there is forgiveness and when there is forgiveness there is a hope for a new life, a new beginning and a promise of a beautiful forever

never be afraid to face your own fear

When we get ourselves tangled in the web of conflicting desires and emotions, we would either find ourselves victorious or defeated.
Victorious when we find our way out in one piece. Defeated when we are left hanging and hurting in the end.
You always seem to find yourself in a predicament when you realize you should have let someone know how you felt before it was too late.
I believe you have suffered long enough. Now you have to make a stand. For once in your life, never be afraid to face your own fear. Follow your heart and find happiness in the little things that make this life a joy to live. Remember, you deserve to be happy for you already had your share of tears and frustrations in life.

Stop asking why

Getting over someone who has hurt us and betrayed our trust is not an easy thing to do. Being taken for granted and exchanged for someone/something else could be very disappointing. Our lives become miserable as we try to make believe that everything is fine just to keep our self-esteem.
Stop asking why, You don't have to make believe and pretend you are happy when you're not. You should cry and lament over loss. But don't let your tears run dry. Don't starve yourself to death for someone who never respected your feelings. Someone who was never really worthy of your love.
After giving yourself some time to cry and shout it all, get back to life and move on. I know it's difficult to let go of a love that you have kept for the past years. Learn to accept that it's all over. Little by little you'll find the peace you're looking for and you'll give yourself the chance to love again then you'll find real happiness in the arms of a someone who will love you more than anyone else has.

Acceptance is the first step to recovery

You may find your way to the farthest planet. Distance has little to do with forgetting. This healing should begin in your heart. Acceptance is the first step to recovery. Once you have learned to understand that this is where it ends then it is the only time when you will learn how to move on with life without having to stop every time you are reminded of the bitterness of the past.

what you keep in your heart will always be with you

what you keep in your heart will always be with you wherever you go. You can run for as long as you want to but you cannot hide from your own shadow. Do not run away from the past because it will always catch up with you no matter how far you go. You cannot turn a new page if you do not close this chapter of your life.it's true that a relationship's success doesn't rest only in finding the right person. It is also being the right person. But love sometimes moves in it's own mysterious ways that we can never question. It's something that we just have to openly and unconditionally accept. If you plan to go away you have to leave everything behind. Leave not to forget but to accept and go not because you want to run away. God has a better plan for you , you just have to trust and believe in Him because he's the only who can help you find a love that will last and a heart you can call your home.

We just have to trust Him

God's ways aren't always easy and painless. Some are meant to open our eyes to what we do not see. Some are meant to make us realize what we stubbornly refuse to understand. But all of them will always be meant to make us stronger and better persons. We just have to trust Him on that.

We cannot own the people we love

sometimes we love so much that we fail to realize that we are already choking our relationships. We cannot own the people we love. We just have to love them and give them the freedom to do as they wish. All we have to do is let them know that when they fall, well always be there to catch them and take care of them.
When we fail in our relationships, we ask ourselves what went wrong. There are times when nothing was wrong. Sometimes love just naturally fades away and this happens to people who are simply not meant for each other. I know it is difficult to comprehend why relationships suddenly take unexpected turns. But, it always happens. People we treasure are taken away from us for a reason . Sometimes we have to stop asking why and just accept our fate. If there is certainty in that end, then we should stop being bitter and just be thankful that for once, we have loved and shared our life

love will only have life when it is shared by two people who believe in its meaning

there is nothing wrong in loving someone. You may be able to bear the pain when love begins to hurt. And when it hurts, you may still be able to give even more. You may be even able to love until it hurts no more. But what good does it bring you when the person you love shows no respect for what you feel and makes lame excuses for his inability to love you back. Love isn't love until you give away. But love will only have life when it is shared by two people who believe in its meaning, by people who share one goal, one commitment, and by people who are selflessly loyal to each other.

Please Leave me Now

Please Leave me now

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I'm afraid to love you

Because my mind says no

Though in my heart I do

I really have to let you go

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I'm happy when you came my door

There's no doubt about it after all

But I've been in this road before

And I dont wanna be hurt once more.

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It may be love at the wrong time

You're not the reason, I guess its mine

Soon it will be over and we will be fine

Just dont cross over on our borderline.

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Please leave me now is all I ask

Before my heart unveil its mask

Please go now again I ask

Even if.... its a painful task.

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feelings & affections

April 1, 2009

Maling Akala

Sa kahit anong relasyon na ating susuungin maging ito’y pangkaibigan ito rin ay dinalaw ng pagsubok. Ilang pagkakaibigan na nga ba ang napasukan ko? Well ako naman kasi ang taong palakaibigan at handang ibigay ang lahat alang alang sa isang samahan. Masyado akong apektado ng mga pangyayari... isang maling akala it was blown out into proportion. I just tought biniro mo kasi sya ... asaide from that wala na akong inisip na iba... Hindi ko pinag dudahan ang iyong pagkatao o pinag isipan ng masama... ang bottom line lang nito ay isang pag aakala na biniro mo sya. Alam kong hindi mo agad mauunawaan sa ngayon dahil puno pa ng galit ang dibdib mo .... pero pag humupa na yan... please think the other way para maintindihan mo din ako. Simula umpisa ng makasama ko kayo naging honest ako sa inyo kung anu ang nakita nyo sa akin yun ako..... walang inhibitions walang pretensions. Kung sa akala mo ako ang may gawa nun.... (ang sagot ko ay hindi ako)pero kung yun ang paniniwala mo.... wala akong magagawa.(Irerespeto ko)
Alam kong hindi dito matatapos ito... pero kung may time kayo gusto ko kayo makausap .

next day....

Alam kong galit ka pa nararamdaman ko naman. Pwede ko ba malaman whats you real point? On my part wala naman akong inisip na masama akala ko lang ikaw ang nag comment nun at binibiro mo lang siya. wala naman ako masang intensyon at walang iniisip na kung anu pa man. biruan lang ang sa akin... never thought that it will gone this far.... Just feel sad why it had to be this way?

Kung masyado kong nasakatan ang damdamin mo I'm really really sorry... Our friendship has just started at napakaagang test of friendship nito... I just hope we can go back to our ussual dealings....

honestly ... hindi ko kasi alam pano kita i-aaproach kanina di ko alam kung ok ka na.natatakot kasi akong ma-ignore thats why I am trying to test the water.......tapos napansin ko ngang cold ka makipag usap ................. uuyyy.... sorry na talaga wag ka na magalit.............please

Missed you friend

Ano ba ang pamantayan para masabi mo na ang isang tao ay isang kaibigan? Isang simpleng tanong ngunit makahulugan. Ano nga ba? Naransan mo na bang magkaroon ng kaibigan na nakasama mo before then pinaghiwalay ng panahon at muling nagtagpo pagkalipas ng ilang taon? I had this friend na nakilala ko nuong 1997 at nakasama sa maikling panahon. Bagamat short span of time magaan ang feeling ko sa kanya kaya sa pakiwari ko sya sa akin ay isang kaibigan. Lumipas ang ilang taon at muling nagtapo ang landas namin …. Isang panhon na pareho kaming may problema, hindi kami nagkaroon ng chance na magkausap ng matagal dahil sa bilis ng pangyayari at may kanya kanya kaming suliranin na dapat harapin. Hangang muli ay nagkasama kami sa work at muli nanumbalik ang aming samahan. Madalas magkasama pag free time…. Konting inom, dinner , pasyal or sports. Isang sitwasyon ang nagpabago ng aming samahan…. Na hangang sa ngayon ay di ko pa alam ang tunay nyang dahilan. Magkita man kami ay cold naman syang makipag usap kaya mas nanaisin ko pang dina lang muna kami magkita. I’ve been thinking about it many times pero wala akong alam na ibang dahilan na maaring ikagalit nya sa akin. Isang insidenta lang ang alam ko, at sa aking palagay hindi naman ako ang dapat sisihin…. Masyado akong naging occupied ng mga pampamilyang problema kaya hinayaan ko na lang munang ganito ang aming sitwasyon. At ngayon ay handa ko ng harapin kung anu man ang aming indifference. Sa totoo lang I missed you friend…. Missed ko na ang bonding natin…. Alam ko nagkakasalubong tayo once in awhile pero gusto kong maayos at iaayos ang lahat. Hindi nawala ang respeto ko sayo bilang kaibigan alam kong kailangan lang nating mag usap. How about a bottle of beer tonight……

Pagsubok...... Paglaban....... Pananampalataya

Ang buhay kung minsan ay matalinghaga, susubukan ka sa panahon na di mo inaasahan. Sinasabi ng iba di ka bibigyan ng problema kung alam mong di mo kaya. Pero iba pala pag ikaw ang kumakaharap sa isang problema …. Minsan maiisip mong sumuko dahil akala mo ay parang sobra sobra na ang pasanin mo sa buhay. Ngunit sa mga pagsubok na aking napag daanan … isa lang ang aking naging sandigan….. ang pananampalataya. Naniwala ako sa kakayahan Nya…. At ang lahat ng nangyayari ay kagustuhan Nya. Sa lahat ng laban wag kang susuko…… harapin lamang ….. na may kasamang pananamplataya sa Kanya….

Relationships

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A female telephone operator received a phone call one day. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness..
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

About LOVE

Love sometimes makes us cry
But even though at least we try
We will know life｢s mystery
That's the truth and reality

Love slips away and we move on
Words tear us up just like a storm
Once you｢ve learn what you've been doing wrong
You can make the change to carry on

Dry your eyes now you'll be just fine
Soon it will be over just give some time
Tonight the dawn comes and a new day begin
Take each experience as one of your blessings