Time and distance can destroy the foundations of strong relationships

It isn’t true, that all long distance relationships are bound to fail. There are exceptions, of course. But generally, lovers separated by miles of oceans and months of time find it very difficult to establish a strong foundation for their relationships. You may be capable of paying all your phone and e-mail bills and talk for as often and as long as you want but still, nothing compares to the warmth of being together and doing and sharing things together. One warm hug couldnt be replaced by hours of conversation, cards or even expensive gifts.
Communication is the lifeblood of a relationship but presence is as important as this vital link. For as long as you keep your lines open where you can share your thoughts and feelings for each other, then I think your relationship will be fine. But remember, you cannot stay this way forever. One day, either of you would have to make a move and find a way to bridge your gap and be together.
Marriage is the fastest option but, you’re right, you have to give yourselves a little more time before plunging in to something as serious as this.
Time and distance can destroy the foundations of strong relationships but when you don’t have any other choice then its your love and faithfulness that will take over.
Looking forward to being with someone we really love gives us the strength to live each day as it passes. Our faith and trust in each other will shield us against forces that will try to destroy our relationships. And most of all, our love, if sincere and unselfish, will see us through during the most trying times of our lives. And in the end, we would walk hand in hand with that person towards the promise of a beautiful forever.

God has a reason for allowing certain things to happen

In our country, it is not a common practice to buckle up in a car. We all know that seatbelts save lives but unless we get a close call from death or know of people who could have been saved by it, we would just brush off the idea and settle for a more convenient alternative. We also know that drunk driving accounts for many of tragic car accidents but sadly, many of us are still unmindful of its consequences. I hope that the tears and the blood that bathe Matt on that fateful day will always remind us to wear our seatbelts whenever possible and never get drunk when we are tasked to drive for the lives that our discipline and conviction will save maybe our own and those of whom we love.
God has a reason for allowing certain things to happen. We may never understand his wisdom but we simply have to trust his will. We don't say goodbye to someone we love for no matter how hard we try, love will always find its way back to us. We just keep that feeling and let it grow again. Say goodbye to the past but don't be afraid to look back when you have to, for there are so many beautiful memories with which you can draw your strength and inspiration from. Cry if you have to and let the tears wash away the bitterness that you feel. Look back and smile for somewhere in the past, love has found a home in your heart. Don't let the feeling end. Nurture it and give it the chance to grow as it has always been said "Let us be glad that love came to live for a moment in our lives. If we keep our hearts open, it will always come again."

Set yourself free

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Love can be very treacherous. After denying ourselves of so much and after standing up against the will of our very own families, love can fade without any warning and leave us hurting, wondering where we have gone wrong.
Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for forty days and forty nights, but it will not rain forever. One day, the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. You may find love and lose it but when love dies, you never have to die with it.

love doesn’t look for tags or prices

It is sad that sometimes we learn with painful tears that our first love doesn’t always turn out to be our last. Our first brush with this exciting emotion can sweep us off our feet and make us forget getting them back on the ground. When we lose our balance, we fall on our faces and that is when it really hurts. Always remember that love doesn’t look for tags or prices on people. Love defies the boundaries of race, color and culture. What we are is more important than who we are. And only when we stop using the scale of prejudice can we truly say that all is fair in love. If a someone isn’t interested anymore he would have a hundred reasons for it, but if the otherway around it would find a thousand ways to prove it.

There is no sin so grave that God cannot forgive

Not anyone can play righteous and look down on you for we are sinners ourselves. We all fail but God doesn’t look less of us because of that. He knows we have all fallen short of his glory but he never gets tired in reaching out. He wants us to be transformed and become better persons. And, in his own way, he would choose someone to serve as an instrument in making us realize the need for that change in our lives.

The wrong that we do weakens us and makes us lose faith. We start to rely on our own selves. But we cannot stand alone for we are limited by our own frailties and sinfulness. If you have exhausted all your options then turn to God. He’s the only one who can clear your mind and give you the strength to accept the pain of reality. Do not let your heart rule over your mind for you will become a helpless slave of your emotions and a prisoner of your desires.

There is no sin so grave that God cannot forgive. If we come to him, he will make that change possible. There can only be real happiness when we strive to become not what we are but what God wants us to be.

There is always a time to think and stop

It's true that love can wait forever but it is crazy to stubbornly hope for someone who doesn't even care or understand how we feel.
Love makes us see things through rose colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger signs that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must realize that you have to let go before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. A time to be sensible and not allow our hearts to rule over our heads.

Loving someone means understanding that person and accepting his imperfections and limitations.

The worst enemies a relationship could ever face could be our very own selves. When we start to think only of our own feelings, needs, and desires, we become thoughtless and uncaring. We begin to demand beyond what is sensible and reasonable and put the blame on our partners when they fail to give us what we want.
Love is always put to the test when we are asked to give more that what we can and sacrifice that which is precious to us. It takes more than just commitment to make a relationship work.
Loving someone means understanding that person and accepting his imperfections and limitations. There is no such thing as a faultless boyfriend or an excellent husband. We can only dream of a perfect relationship but in the end just hope to find the ideal one.
We all learn from love. But, sometimes we learn the hard way and pay such a painful price for the lessons it teaches. Real love is selfless and understanding. It is kind and forgiving.It is true that, all of us have to go through trials and bear the pain that it inflicts in order to become better persons. Just like gold that is refined in fire, we learn from our faults and get our strength from the tears that fall from our eyes.
The lesson you have learned from experience and the lesson that will help you find lasting happiness in your next, and hopefully, final relationship in this lifetime.

God allows us to be tested at times when we are most weak

Not all married men will experience the excruciating pain of being left by their wives for another man. I don’t know if I could survive losing someone I shared my vows of forever with in a competition that is never fair and will never be justifiable and acceptable.


Not only have you lost your wife but you may have also lost your kids to a man who could be their dad but can never be their father. I know there were no words that can describe how bitter it was to see them go, but, you have allowed love to rule over hatred and humility over pride. You were able to say goodbye in a manner that was truly that of a real gentleman. You have lost a fight but not the battle. You have lost your family but you haven’t lost your faith that you have built your life upon.


It is true that God allows us to be tested at times when we are most weak and in places where it hurt them most. Job, in the bible, lost his family, his wealth, his health and almost lost his own life. But he never lost hope and God saw how he stood firm in his faith. He was rewarded a hundred fold after surviving the most difficult trials in his life.


It has been years now, and your children may already have families of their own, too. You haven’t stopped loving them and I know you never will. You will always be a father to your son and daughter. That’s the way it is and will always be, in the eyes of God.

There is life even after we lose those we love, that there is forgiveness even after we have been badly hurt. That God will keep us intact when we feel like breaking apart and that HE will take our hands when we are just about to give up.

someone so close yet so unreachable

I know how it feels to have someone so close yet so unreachable. You know your questions can only be answered by the person you have learned to love all these years.

Don't torture yourself with the if's, why's and probably's. Guess work will just prolong the agony. You have to act now and fight for whom you feel is right for you.

You need a little push. Ask for dinner and talk. Set a comfortable atmosphere for an open and honest conversation and encourage to reveal the feelings.

A man could find a hundred ways to show he cares, A woman can also let know what she feel in many subtle yet concrete ways. Just be yourself. Be sweet, caring and loving in your own fashion. Remember, there will always be a door to someone’s heart and it can only be opened not by foolish pride and reservations but by honest, unreserved and unselfish love.

Love has no room for selfish people

We survive each day because of love even if the other person doesn't seem to take notice of it. We just give and sacrifice without expecting anything in return. but, just like a plant that will only survive for days without water and stand the harsh heat, love, no matter how true and strong it may be, will be short lived if not nurtured with the same care.
Love has no room for selfish people who think only of themselves. If we have been too busy with our work, have been kept by our distorted priorities then it's about time that we stop for awhile and think about the people who we might have stepped on and taken for granted. Love isn't forever. let us not wait too long to appreciate those who have unselfishly given it to us for all that may be left tomorrow are just the bitter and cold memories of someone who loved too much but was never loved enough.

Letting go is not just setting the other person free

You may have found peace in just loving from a distance and not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.

To let go of someone doesn't mean that we have to stop loving that person, it only means that we have to allow that person to find his OWN happiness without expecting him to come back to us. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting ourselves free from all bitterness, hatred, anger and empty hopes that we keep in your hearts.

no matter how hard we try

God has his ways of making us see the way out of the darkness that we sometimes get trapped into because of our own sinful desires.
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we end up sharing the love that we feel so right about with the wrong person. Let us not blame ourselves, for, human as we all are, we all stumble and make mistakes. But there is always hope for God sees and listens. All we have to do is ask Him to show us the signs along the highway of life so we can turn back and seek new roads that will bring us the promise of hope and lasting happiness.

always be doomed from the start

Everyone knows that an affair with a married person will always be doomed from the start. Not even what others feel as love would be enough to justify illicit intimacy. But it still happens because most of the time strong passionate desires run over our will to do what is right. Sometimes we simply ignore our conscience and just go with the flow of our impaired judgement and biased emotions.

It may be late but what is important is........

How can we ever forget someone who has been a part of our lives when there is still this silent longing for this person deep inside? An empty hope of bringing back the hands of time and wishing we could have made things right. We can never forget someone we love. It's a simple as that. No matter how hard we try to get someone out of our system, if we still feel for that person then our efforts of letting go will serve no purpose. For all the feeling we've wished to let go will just keep coming back.

I have always believe that in this game called love, people who are afraid to express what they feel always on hold to the losing end. I have never entertained the thought that being a girl would have to keep someone from expressing her affection for a man. Women always have this notion that they should always wait for the guy to make the first move. But not all men are as aggressive as they would like to think. Most men are afraid of being rejected. They will send out signals but will not pursue if they don't see any welcome signs.

It would have been better if you never held your feelings back. When it’s gone you realize how your insensitivity and fears broke the foundations of what could have been a beautiful relationship. But it's never too late . You are trapped in the past because you have never made your feelings known. It's about time you set yourself free from the clutches of regret and wishful thinking. Let it be known, once and for all, the chaos in your heart.

It may be late but what is important is for you get hold of yourself now and let the past just bury itself where bitter memories will be forgotten forever. This revelation is the key to your freedom. Never lose hope, Miracles do happen. Who knows? Letting Know what you truly feel could be the start of something beautiful.

Some People

God determines who walks into your life....it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go. I need this back. If you'll do this for me, I'll do it for you....When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God is all you need.

There is no certainty in this world

Running away would sometimes be the most convinient way to get out of a mess but that doesn't change anything and makes problems even more complicated. This is the time when you have to courageously face andstraighten your entangled emotions.

There would seem to be no winners in this game but the truth shall be the final judge and set all of you free once and for all. Love can end in tragedy or victory and for some the end means agonizing defeat and relentless pain. This is the lesson that love teaches us. There is no certainty in this world and we should cherish what we have now for tomorrow they may be there no more.

Risk is better than regrets

Its’ Ok to fail. Give room for trial and error. A lot of successes happened after learning from a series of failures. Don't be afraid to make mistakes but make sure you learn from them. Make those failures as stepping stones to bring you closer to what you want to achieve.

Risk is better than regrets. Would you rather live a very calculated life and bid this world farewell with lots of regrets? Risk being hurt. Risk being rejected. Risk being laughed at. You will never find out what could have been if you won't dare to take the risk.

there will always be a life even after losing love

Your experience in love will made you a better and a stronger person. These are what the trials are for, anyway. In many failed relationships, separation comes as the inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be as twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, the end of a relationship is imposed on us, but our choice to hold on is always beyond the control of circumstance. Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us. It is a resolve we make ourselves.

Many, however, remain and hold on to the empty promise of a memory--a past that is gone forever and vows that may never be fulfilled. We choose to live in the shadow of someone we still love, someone who only used to love us. We refuse to turn the pages of our lives so we can relish the beautiful memories we’ve had. Yes, there is closure, but not of the past but of the heart. We will never grow with bitterness and wishful yearning. Life can move on only if we open our hearts and give ourselves a chance to find love again.

Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time is the healer of old wounds. Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkest and loneliest moments. There is always hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try. And remember, there will always be a life even after losing love. That life may even be better than before. For all our pain and suffering come with a purpose. They are meant not to discourage us but to make us stronger and better persons.

You have to learned the true meaning of closure and have stood firm on not looking back. If someone out there is crying over a relationship that has gone sour, never lose faith because losing someone we love may not be a loss at all but a blessing because someone even more deserving is yet to come.

success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of it's beginning but in it's consistency

It was proven so many times that one of the most conclusive ways in putting a relationship to the test is to introduce a third party. This party would always come into the picture and try to disturb the balance of a seemingly healthy relationship. This has a two edged sword that may either destroy or make a stronger relationship.

Even you started your relationship with just like in a fairy tale. But, the success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of it's beginning but in it's consistency. We all change and sometimes we change to destroy the very relationships that we are trying to hold dearly in our hearts.

WHEN IT IS WISE TO HURRY

WHEN IT IS WISE TO HURRY
By Marlene Legaspi-Munar

Pinagusapan natin na mayroong mga pagkakataon na hindi wise ang magmadali. Ano-ano ang mga pagkakataong iyan?

1. It is not wise to hurry when we have not checked our assumptions because we may make very serious mistakes.

2. It is also unwise to hurry in making commitments or promises dahil marami ang hindi nakakatupad sa mga pangako o commitment na hindi talaga pinag-isipan. Halimbawa sa trabaho ninyo, you made a commitment to your customer pagkatapos when you consulted with your boss, hindi naman pala kayang ideliver ng inyong kumpanya ang pangako na iyon, kayo ang masisira. Ang kumpanya ninyo ang masisira. So do not rush in making promises.

3. We should be in no hurry to respond to others with angry words. Kapag mayroong kaopisina na galit na galit sa inyo at sinabihan kayo ng masasakit na salita imbes na magmadali sa pagresponde, itikom muna ang bibig at ng hindi makapagbitiw ng salita na pagsisisihan niyo rin.

4. It is better to plan carefully than to move too quickly.

These are instances when it is unwise to hurry. But there are also instances in our lives, in our work when you need and it is WISE to hurry.

1. We need to hurry when we need to get out of harm’s way. Kung tayo ay mapapahamak, if your convictions and your reputation will be compromised, if temptation is tearing at you very closely, kinakailangan magmadaling umalis. We should hurry when we need to get out of harm’s way.

2. When someone else has something against us, we should hurry to be reconciled with them. Mahirap gawin lalo na kung ang ating hindi kasundo ay boss natin o kaya kaopisina natin, parang ang hirap yatang nitong we should hurry to be reconciled with them. But Matthew 5:25 reminds us to come to terms quickly with your enemy before it is too late and you are dragged into court, handed over to an officer and thrown in jail. Gusto ba nating lumalala pa ang sitwasyon? Mas mahirap ang may kaaway lalo na kung araw-araw mo siyang kailangan makita dahil magkasama kayo sa trabaho.

3. We should hurry to obey God. Psalm 119:60, I will hurry without lingering to obey your commands. Is God telling you to do something at work, in your life, in your family? Ano ang dapat nating maging response kung mayroong pagkakataon na kailangan nating palaging magmadali? Iyan ay pagsunod sa Diyos.

Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart

Don't rush yourself into making a choices. You are not buying a grocery item that you can just return when you're dissatisfied. When you are finally able to stand on your own without looking back then that's the time to choose. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Always remember that happiness is not a matter of destiny but a matter of choice.

marry out of love and not out of obligation

I don't believe that marriage is always the answer to unwanted pregnancy. Many believed it was but most of them just woke up one day and realized that they must have been better off staying single and raising their child by themselves. People should marry out of love and not out of obligation for the latter is never an ingredient of a successful marriage.

If you keep on bitterly grieving

If you keep on bitterly grieving over what could have been then you can never be better. For what you nurture in your heart is a disease that will slowly eat you up and leave you hopelessly alone in the end.

we can never be truly happy if we know that we have stepped on others to attain it

A man would sometimes find it forbidding to drop a girl in favor of another because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings and would rather choose the slow and the not too obvious exit. The other may row on two rivers because he simply enjoys it and would continue to take advantage of both women to satisfy his own needs. The other enjoys the privilege given by a woman who doesn't mind sharing her pie. She would consent to the other party and blindly hold on to the pain because she believes it is better to share him and have him than to take him and lose him.

Let us always remember that we can never be truly happy if we know that we have stepped on others to attain it. Happiness is not when we get because we have taken. It is when we have taken because we were given.

There is no such thing as a perfect partner

Unless you do something about how you feel right now, I'm afraid your bitter thoughts will be like a slow poison that will eventually take away the life that keeps your relationship on the ground. To be able to trust wholeheartedly without any doubt is a vital as the love that stands as a stronghold of a commitment.
A man who falls into the lure of getting attached to someone other than the one he loves usually gets away denying it and lying with words. You must understand that there are deeply-rooted reasons why he acts that way. He may never be able to justify it and you may fail to accept it. But acts of infidelity would most likely happen at least once in every relationship's lifetime.
There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We would always stumble and fall., hurt ourselves and the people we love. If there will never be any room for forgiveness then most of us would be living with regret and bitter memories of letting go of people precious and important to us.
Before finally considering marriage, you should first find peace in accepting him for all that he has done to hurt you and learn to forgive him for it. Relationships that are clouded with doubts and filled with disbelief are like houses built on sand. They crack and fall apart on the slightest provocation. Love isn't love without trust and trust will never find its roots if we are too hard to forgive and too revengeful in not giving those we love a second chance

You have a life to live

If love is a blessing when it comes then, it should never be a curse but a lesson when it leaves. The pain of failed relationships must be the stronghold with which we build new ones and the tears that we have shed should cleanse our hearts from the bitterness that wraps our world in darkness.There are times when we just have to stop wishing and start living. What matters is that you have learned to accept your fate and stop living in the shadow of memories.You have a life to live. Don't let it depend on someone who minds only his own. Remember, just as when God opens a window when he closes a door . our hearts will find a way out of its miseries when pain shuts it off from everything else. Don't pin your hopes on someone who doesn't love you anymore. Believe me, there will always be someone more deserving of your care and attention.There will come a time when we will have to let go of something important to us. Remember a love given is not a love lost. It is when we want to take it back that we lose it forever. Give yourself a chance and love will grow in your heart again. It may not be there forever but cherish it while it lasts and be thankful that even for a moment, you felt it's presence and made you happy.

Don't be sorry for openly expressed your feelings

When we like someone so much we develop this inclination to interpret that person's actions in a very positive way .
We even give the smallest gesture so much meaning which , in return, gives us a better reason to like even more. You could have been all the things that best friends could ever be but there was still a line that separated you from being more than just friends.the flowers …….. could have a thousand meanings . ……it could only mean love in the remotest possibility.

Don't be sorry for openly expressed your feelings . It was better than keeping it to yourself and not knowing what he/she truly felt. At least you know where you stand and hopefully not never expect anything beyond what he/she can offer.
Love dies in our hearts but it can grow again if we learn to accept our destiny and give time a chance to heal our wounds. Let us always remember that we cannot always have everything we want. We are blessed when we find love but we should still be thankful when we loose it for what are denied of are things not meant for us and what we have been given are the ones destined forever.

pain will always be the foundation of beautiful things

It's true that most of us willfully consent to what we see as right in our eyes. Like careless drivers , we follow the dictates of our hearts and stubbornly become slaves to our own feelings and desires. We fail to think rationally and blindly ignore the " red stop light" that warns us of peril ahead . We may have been victims of ignorance but when the truth is finally revealed to us , we still choose to remain nonchalant and care less about the consequences of our actions.There are those who were misled into believing that a relationship was right and there are those who knew that is was a sin right from the beginning. But many of us , even after knowing we're going the wrong way still choose to take the chance and persistently stay on that road , even if we know of the danger that lurks in it's path .God always puts a red stop light along our journey to remind us that we are going to hurt ourselves if we stubbornly step on the gas and move on. But he doesn't put a physical barrier to keep us in place . In the end , it is still our choice, based on our own free will to stop what is wrong and move on with what is right.Life is a matter of choice. We are who we choose to become and we become what we want ourselves to be. Where we are now speaks of the road we chose to travel. Who we are now reflects the decisions we made earlier in our lives.For a time, you seem to have found your place in someone's life. But it wasn't a place you can call your own because it was somebody else's home. You chose not to become a part of it not because it was what your heart wanted you to do but because it was what your conscience was telling you.
Always remember that pain will always be the foundation of beautiful things that are yet to come. There can never be life without love but then again, there can never be love without pain. So let that pain remain to make you strong so you maybe able to look back where love has gone you and look ahead where love will come again.

We never have to be sorry that we have loved

Love brings us such wonderful joy that sometimes we just wish that this feeling would never end. But more often than not there are physical and emotional barriers that would keep this love from growing. Sometimes we just find ourselves hooked on someone who may never have the same feelings for us. We could be so desperately in love with someone who only thinks of us as a friend.We wonder why we don't always get what we want and we fail even if we put so much effort in getting it. If we think of it, we'd realize that we will never get something that is never really meant for us.It is this wishful longing that brings pain. It is in accepting the truth that we get hurt. But even if the harshness of reality grinds us in agonizing pain, it is only in knowing the truth that we are finally set free. Free from the bondage of false hopes and endless longing for a love that was never meant to be.We never have to be sorry that we have loved, for love is the best gift we could ever give someone. Even if we fail and our love is unreturned, we should still be glad that we have experienced how it is to care for and share our life with someone special.
There is no happiness in the arms of asomeone who doesn't love you. Set your heart free, fly and don't be afraid to fall. I'm sure that amidst the turmoil of life there will always be a place where you can rest your broken wings and there will always be a time to heal, a time to move on, spread your wings and fly away again.

It doesn't matter if we fail.........

Many self-made people are afraid to dwell into relation- ships because the rules of work and business do not apply here. In love they can be as vulnerable as a child. They are afraid to fall and would not accept defeat so they just avoid being committed at all. They think that there can be life without love. There is, but it is empty and void with loneliness.I would say you missed a great chance. It was the price you have to pay for being afraid of defeat. It doesn't matter if we fail, what matters is that we have loved at all. Your insecurities are crutches that will keep you from finding real happiness. Throw them away and give love a chance to make a difference in your life.There is always light at the end of the tunnel and you shouldn't stop when you see a glimpse of it. Recognize your weakness but never lose confidence.Believe in yourself. For if you don't, you might be trapped in an endless tunnel and may never see the light again. Remember, those who aren't afraid to love find it but those who are consumed by their own fear lose it.

Believed that there is a reason and a season for everything

Believed that there is a reason and a season for everything. Experience is our greatest teacher . Your tomorrow is something that you owe yourself, not with anyone. Learn from your mistakes and live your life,….. avoiding them so that you may find what you have lost and never lose it again.
we may stumble and hurt .........but there is no mountain so high that love cannot climb over. There is no sea so wide that it cannot cross. Let us always remember that when there is love there is forgiveness and when there is forgiveness there is a hope for a new life, a new beginning and a promise of a beautiful forever

never be afraid to face your own fear

When we get ourselves tangled in the web of conflicting desires and emotions, we would either find ourselves victorious or defeated.
Victorious when we find our way out in one piece. Defeated when we are left hanging and hurting in the end.
You always seem to find yourself in a predicament when you realize you should have let someone know how you felt before it was too late.
I believe you have suffered long enough. Now you have to make a stand. For once in your life, never be afraid to face your own fear. Follow your heart and find happiness in the little things that make this life a joy to live. Remember, you deserve to be happy for you already had your share of tears and frustrations in life.

Stop asking why

Getting over someone who has hurt us and betrayed our trust is not an easy thing to do. Being taken for granted and exchanged for someone/something else could be very disappointing. Our lives become miserable as we try to make believe that everything is fine just to keep our self-esteem.
Stop asking why, You don't have to make believe and pretend you are happy when you're not. You should cry and lament over loss. But don't let your tears run dry. Don't starve yourself to death for someone who never respected your feelings. Someone who was never really worthy of your love.
After giving yourself some time to cry and shout it all, get back to life and move on. I know it's difficult to let go of a love that you have kept for the past years. Learn to accept that it's all over. Little by little you'll find the peace you're looking for and you'll give yourself the chance to love again then you'll find real happiness in the arms of a someone who will love you more than anyone else has.

Acceptance is the first step to recovery

You may find your way to the farthest planet. Distance has little to do with forgetting. This healing should begin in your heart. Acceptance is the first step to recovery. Once you have learned to understand that this is where it ends then it is the only time when you will learn how to move on with life without having to stop every time you are reminded of the bitterness of the past.